Merry Christmas

So today is Christmas, & what have I done?? Yeah, I don't know the rest of that, but you get the idea. I usually dread Christmas time. I avoid the malls & stay in. But something was different this year, I was actually at a store last Monday & wasn't stressed. I enjoyed being there. I checked to make sure I wasn't getting a fever. Maybe it was cause I was done my shopping & there was no rush. Whatever it was though.....I hope it happens next year.

Kids opened gifts, & received more than they really needed. I was lucky enough to get the most amazing camera. The one I have been dreaming of & drooling over for about a month now. We actually got something for my father that he wanted & liked. I cooked dinner & was complemented on it. (Usually I get the "burnt offerings" remark from my dad) All in all, a great day. I enjoyed having my family here, & cooking for them. Maybe I'll offer to be on call EVERY year. LOL

Tomorrow Jared's parents are coming down, with his sister & her baby. Another busy day is planned. The boys will get to open more gifts, & will probably be another tiring, but enjoyable day.

Now I am off to bed to try to recharge for tomorrow.

The Big Day

So I got off work early. Had my supervisor come in to relieve me so that I could get to the courthouse on time. AND he has the nerve to ask for an adjournment!! HELLO!! You brought the matter up, you asked for this.....YOU should have been ready. So I explained that I had to take time off work & the Judge agreed to adjourn the matter with conditions!! This judge was amazing. He wasn't falling for his act. I was awarded $100 in costs & that needs to be paid before my ex can bring this back to court. He also needs to to file anything that he has not filed to comply with any previous court orders. I wish there was a way to request a judge, because I would request this one again. Sooooooo......MERRY CHRISTMAS to all. I know I'll have one now.

Upcoming Court

So, on the 6th of December I received in the mail documents from my ex-husband. He is once again taking me back to court to ask for access to the boys. This is the 5th time in almost 5 years, its getting quite tiring.

Just to give some background.....he was charged not once, but 3 times, during our marriage for assault. He was given 6 visits in the summer of '06 but only made it to 3 of them. After that (Oct/Nov 06) he was granted reasonable access on reasonable notice & never once exercised it. In 09 I was once again brought back to court with him saying that I was denying him access, but he NEVER tried to arrange anything. At that point he agreed to not have access if I agreed to not ask for child support. NOW after all this, he wants access. He states....the child is of the age now that it would be beneficial to the child to have his father around. HELLO!!! What about the last 4 years of his life?? It was barely 6 months ago when he stated he doesn't have the financial means to commit to a regular schedule for visits.

Anyway, court is tomorrow. I can show 3-4 mistakes made by him when he filed his paperwork for court. A big one.....I NEVER got 30 days to file my response. So my partner & I are going into court tomorrow & we're hoping for a judgement in our favor. If not, maybe the courts will adjourn it all til the new year & by then maybe my ex will have lost interest in persuing this. Stay tuned.....will give updates tomorrow. Wish me luck.